You wake up, and before your feet even hit the floor, your mind is already racing with the day’s obligations. Work, kids’ schedules, requests from your parents—it’s a never-ending cycle, and the last person on the list is you.
If this sounds familiar, you’re likely so overwhelmed that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to have time for yourself. This list of “gotta do’s” isn’t a to-do list; it’s a one-way ticket to the island of obligation.
But did you know there’s a different way? There’s an island of freedom and peace waiting for you. It’s a place where you have the freedom to say no without guilt, where you feel in charge of your schedule, and where you have the space to simply slow down.
For more on creating time for yourself, read my post on Overcoming Overwhelm.
You know I’m deeply passionate about helping you navigate the daily demands of life – whether it’s work, family, or aging parents – all of the above – and find that precious time and space to prioritize yourself. My mission is to guide you from feeling overwhelmed to experiencing true calm and inner peace.
That’s why I’m absolutely thrilled to announce something new and exciting that’s coming soon! I’m launching a brand new group program designed specifically for you.
Imagine This: Your Path to Calm, Together.
This program will be a supportive, guided journey where we’ll use The Self-Care Sanctuary Journal as our guide. It’s all about creating a consistent practice that helps you:
Uncover hidden pockets of time.
Cultivate more inner peace and calm.
Build sustainable self-care habits.
Connect with a community of like-minded women on a similar path.
It’s going to be a powerful space for transformation, support, and reclaiming your joy.
But First, I Need Your Brilliant Brain!
Every great program needs a name that truly resonates, and I want your input to make sure this one feels perfect for you. I’ve narrowed it down to a few options, and I’d be so grateful if you could cast your vote.
Which name best captures the essence of finding calm, creating space, and prioritizing yourself through journaling and community?
This program is designed to be an accessible, impactful way to start your journey to more peace and time. If you’re excited about creating more calm and space in your life, I invite you to join our VIP Early Bird Waitlist!
Thank you for being such an integral part of the Coach Wendy community. Your feedback helps me create the most impactful resources for you.
In love & light,
P.S. Don’t forget to vote for your favorite name – every voice counts! And if you know a woman who’s feeling overwhelmed and could use this kind of support, please share this post with her.
Did you see the Strawberry Moon last night? Just as it was rising, I caught a glimpse of it and it was glorious.
According to the Farmer’s Almanac, “June’s full Moon—typically the last full Moon of spring or the first of summer—has traditionally been called the Strawberry Moon. As flowers bloom and early fruit ripens, June is a time of great abundance for many.”
A simple abundance…….I found this delicious Strawberry soap and have kept it in the bathroom closet for a few weeks now, waiting for the perfect time to open it.
Last night, during the Strawberry Moon, was that perfect time and it is glorious. Its fragrance scents the entire bathroom AND hallway.
Can you see how, in these very small things, when added to daily gratitude shift our mindset into one of abundance, possibility and hope?
What is your abundance? Let me know in the comments!
Better is happening. Shifting your focus will bring you prosperity, joy and abundance.
Let’s face it, ladies: for many of us juggling the demands of our loved ones, the real struggle is the weight of overwhelming expectations—especially those pesky ones we place on ourselves. Can you relate? Do you ever find yourself in a never-ending cycle of giving, where your own needs are about as prioritized as that gym membership you forgot about? Until suddenly you feel unworthy and then next thing you know, you find yourself teetering on the edge of burnout? By that time, self-care becomes about as elusive as a unicorn.
Why Does It Feel Impossible?
When you’re in survival mode, every day can feel like a high-stakes game of Whac-A-Mole. You’re balancing the emotional needs of your spouse or partner. You may also be caring for aging parents, managing your own family, and somehow trying to keep your professional commitments afloat. It’s like being a circus performer, but without the applause. The absolute feeling of impossibility shows up when you finally decide to prioritize your well-being. In fact do you notice that it often feels like an uphill battle—like trying to climb Mount Everest in flip-flops? (prepare for the face plant) Do you wonder why your self-care plans keep getting derailed or why it feels like an Olympic event to expect even a little reciprocity from those you support?
The Quick Solution: Shift Your Mindset
What if I told you that the first step toward reclaiming your sense of worth and well-being is to shift your mindset? Spoiler alert: your needs are just as valid as everyone else’s. You deserve care, compassion, and a little “me time”—preferably with a side of chocolate.
So how do you shift your mindset so that you can put your needs first? Here’s the cheat sheet:
Set Realistic Expectations: Newsflash: you can’t change how others behave, but you can control your responses. It’s perfectly okay, more than okay, to ask for what you need and to feel a tad miffed when those needs aren’t met. This acknowledgment is your first step towards setting healthier boundaries.
Prioritize Self-Care as Non-Negotiable: Think of self-care as your secret weapon, not a guilty pleasure. Just like you wouldn’t skip a crucial work meeting (unless you’re really good at faking a cough), don’t skip your exercise or downtime. Your sanity depends on it!
Practice Mindfulness: Focus on your own feelings instead of absorbing the stress of those around you like a human sponge. Grounding yourself in the present helps you manage overwhelming emotions and make clearer decisions—like whether to enjoy just a few more minutes of an episode of the Gilmore Girls (spoiler: yes).
Celebrate Small Wins: Celebrate yourself for even the tiniest steps toward self-care. Whether it’s going to bed earlier or stealing a moment to breathe, every little action counts. Go YOU!
Can you see how shifting your focus from the expectations of others to your own needs, creating a more balanced life, is possible? I invite you to embrace your worthiness, let self-care be a priority, and remember: you truly deserve it—preferably with a side of sass! Definitely with a side of sass.
As a busy, professional woman juggling the demands of work, family, and caregiving, I know it’s all too easy to feel overwhelmed and stretched thin. Between the pressure to perform at your job, the needs of aging parents or a sick child, and the constant pull to be everything to everyone, do you find yourself exhausted, frustrated, and questioning your own self-worth?
What if I told you there’s a way to fortify yourself against the relentless onslaught of obligations and responsibilities? Would you want to know more about that? Well, here’s what I know for sure…… the antidote to burnout lies in cultivating a deep sense of appreciation.
Gratitude as a Protective Shield Just as a knight’s armor shielded them from the blows of battle, gratitude can serve as a buffer against the stress and negativity that threatens to consume you. When you make a conscious effort to focus on what you’re thankful for, it shifts your perspective and helps you recognize the blessings in your life, even amidst the chaos.
This is especially important as you struggle with feelings of unworthiness or the pressure to be “selfless” at the expense of your own well-being. By donning the armor of gratitude, you give yourself permission to prioritize self-care without the guilt. After all, how can you pour from an empty cup?
Cultivating a Gratitude Practice Building a gratitude practice doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as taking a few moments each day to jot down three things you’re grateful for, whether it’s the smell of freshly brewed coffee, the laughter of a loved one, or the beautiful sunset you witnessed on your commute home.
For a more structured approach, I invite you to check out my Self-Care Sanctuary Journal. This 30-day journaling program offers daily prompts and reflections to help you cultivate a deep sense of appreciation and inner peace, even in the midst of life’s challenges.
By donning the armor of gratitude, you’ll not only protect yourself from burnout but also create the mental space and clarity to tackle your to-do list with renewed energy and focus. So, the next time you feel the weight of the world pressing down on you, remember to reach for your gratitude shield and let it fortify you for the journey ahead.
In today’s fast-paced world, it often feels like we’re racing against the clock. With endless to-do lists, work commitments, social obligations, and the constant buzz of notifications, it’s easy to forget about the most important person in our lives: ourselves. If you’ve been going a million miles an hour, it might be time to hit the brakes and carve out some much-needed “me time.”
The Importance of Me Time
Taking time for yourself isn’t just a luxury; it’s a necessity. When we neglect our own needs, stress can accumulate, leading to burnout and fatigue. Making space for relaxation allows us to recharge, refocus, and reconnect with ourselves. It’s essential for our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Creating A Relaxation Ritual
Finding time to relax doesn’t have to be complicated. Today, I’m going to share with you one simple way to guarantee that you enjoy relaxation in your day.
Ready?
Commit to doing one ritual a day – and do it badly. In other words, it does not have to be perfect. Just do it.
I’ll use myself as an example. I first learned of these two items from a client of mine who has gorgeous skin and zero wrinkles at 60!
I asked her secret and she said she used these two items daily: A face roller and a gua sha.
I’d seen face rollers but had no idea what a gua sha was. So I did some research, found a set in rose quartz and ordered. I found this set below on Amazon and you can click the link here if you are interested. (As an Amazon Associate, I may earn a small commission if you use my links. This comes at no extra cost to you and I so appreciate you.)
I had to watch a YouTube video to figure out how to use them. When I used them for the first time, I noticed that I felt calm and loved.
Then I got busy and this ritual fell by the wayside. Can you relate? Has that ever happened to you?
I noticed that I was giving myself grief for not using my face roller or gua sha. What good was that doing me? None whatsoever.
So I decided to give myself grace and just jump in and do it. If I just use the roller, great. If I use both the roller and the gua sha, that is awesome. I let go of my idea of having to do it perfectly.
If I don’t do all of the ‘rolls’ that the YouTube video I watched walks you through, that’s perfectly fine.
Embracing Relaxation Tools
What type of self-care rituals would you like to indulge in? Get curious about this.
Shifting Toward Calm
I noticed something when I used my face roller and gua sha. It gave me a sense of calm. Could it be the rose quartz? Possibly. Could it be that I allowed myself to slow down? It is very possible.
What do you think you might notice when you slow down?
You Are Deserving & Worthy
Life can be overwhelming, but taking time for yourself is essential for maintaining balance. Remember, you deserve it! So go ahead, slow down, and embrace the beauty of “me time.”
Let me know in the comments, what self-care ritual or tool will you indulge in?
A gratitude journal can help you reflect on the blessings of the renewing season and let go of any lingering winter burdens. In fact, The Self-Care Sanctuary Journal, which I wrote, features 30 Days of Journaling Prompts for Peace of Mind.
This journal is designed to help you to embrace your worthiness and cultivate a life filled with peace, balance, and gratitude. This beautifully designed journal offers 30 days of guided journaling prompts that empower you to let go of worry, release guilt, and prioritize your well-being.
Each prompt encourages you to reflect on your journey, helping you to:
🌺 Let Go of Worry: Discover techniques to quiet your mind and embrace tranquility.
🌺 Care for Yourself: Prioritize your needs and learn the importance of self-care, so you can be your best for those you love.
🌺 Embrace Your Worthiness: Acknowledge that you are enough and deserving of joy and fulfillment.
With daily reflections, you’ll find yourself welcoming peace and joy into your heart, fostering a sense of balance, and living each day with purpose. This journal is not just a tool; it’s a sanctuary for your thoughts and feelings, guiding you toward a more mindful and enriched life.
Join the journey of self-discovery and thrive as you navigate through life’s challenges with confidence and grace.
Click here to purchase your journal so that you can start your transformation today—because you are worthy, you are enough, and you choose to thrive!
What is better than a relaxing bath to really make space for you? Treating yourself to a luxurious floral-infused bath or diffusing uplifting spring scents can cultivate a sense of peace and ease.
With this pillow in place, you’ll be soaking up gratitude and mindfulness so that you can be in a place of receiving.
Light some of your favorite scented candles and remember to keep your favorite lotion on hand for after your soak. Stop and take a moment to really enjoy your peaceful moment and inhale the relaxing fragrances around you.
By receiving the rejuvenating energy of these self-care practices, you can emerge feeling refreshed and confident, ready to step into the vibrant bloom of spring with an open and grateful heart.
In love & light,
P.S. As an Amazon Associate, I do earn a commission off of the sale of the items you see here – and I so appreciate your support 🩷
As a caregiver, managing all the things can feel overwhelming. Thankfully, Amazon’s Subscribe and Save program offers a range of products that can simplify your life. Here are ten that simplified mine and will help you streamline your caregiving tasks and free up more time for what truly matters.
1. Laundry Soap
I subscribe to laundry soap for my mom, ensuring she never run out. Since she has very sensitive skin she uses 7th Generation Laundry Detergent, Free & Clear. This means I can focus on spending quality time with her instead of running errands to find cleaning supplies.
2. Briefs
I also have Always Discreet Adult Incontinence Underwear delivered regularly through Subscribe and Save. This discreet solution saves me time and ensures my mom has what she needs without the hassle of last-minute shopping. Plus – it’s cheaper than buying this in a store! Winner, winner.
3. Distilled Water for Humidifiers
In the winter, I use Instacart to have distilled water delivered for my mom’s humidifier. This not only saves my back from carrying heavy bottles but also ensures that her humidifier runs smoothly, improving her comfort.
4. Medications and Supplements
Set up a subscription for any medications or supplements your loved one needs. This ensures you never miss a refill, keeping your caregiving routine consistent and stress-free.
5. Personal Care Products
Subscribe to personal care items like shampoo, conditioner, and body wash. Having these essentials delivered regularly means you can focus on your mom’s needs instead of running to the store for toiletries.
6. Incontinence Products
By the way, did I mention that when I subscribe to Amazon’s Subscribe and Save for her incontinence products, she appreciates the fact that no one knows what is in the boxes vs. me hauling them in a bag for everyone to see.
7. Healthy Snacks
Healthy snacks can be hard to find, especially if you’re busy. Subscribe to nutritious snacks that your loved one enjoys, ensuring they have healthy options available without constant trips to the store.
8. Cleaning Supplies
Keep your home clean and organized by subscribing to cleaning supplies like all-purpose cleaners, paper towels, and disinfecting wipes. This reduces the stress of last-minute cleaning runs.
9. Pet Supplies
If you’re caring for pets as well, subscribe to pet food and supplies. This ensures you never run out of food or litter, making it easier to care for your furry family members.
10. Meal Kits or Pre-Packaged Meals
Consider subscribing to meal kits or pre-packaged meals designed for seniors. These can save you time on meal prep while ensuring your loved one eats nutritious and balanced meals.
Conclusion
By utilizing Amazon’s Subscribe and Save program, you can simplify many aspects of caregiving. These hacks not only save time but also reduce stress, allowing you to focus on what truly matters: spending quality time with your loved one. Start exploring these options today and make caregiving a little easier.
Slow is steady. Steady is smooth. Smooth is fast. Fast is deadly. That hit. I’d heard one of my mentor coaches say this so often – Slow is steady. Steady is smooth. Smooth is fast. But she left out the last sentence. Fast is deadly.
When I googled this phrase that last sentence, Fast is deadly, popped up.
So today, I want to discuss an essential topic that often gets overlooked: the importance of putting yourself first as a caregiver. While caring for others can be a noble and fulfilling role, it is also very demanding. That’s why it’s crucial to remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup and as a result, you may find yourself in fight, flight & freeze.
What is Fight, Flight & Freeze and how it affects you:
Fight, Flight and Freeze are what shows up when your executive function has shut off. As a result of being in the state of fight, flight and freeze you may be experiencing symptoms including frustration, guilt, resentment, excessive fatigue and anxiety. You may be isolating yourself. Your relationships with family and friends may be suffering. You feel like you have no time to invest in anyone but the person who needs care. Your loved ones are saying to you, ‘You look exhausted’ or ‘I’m worried about you.’
The remedy to all of these symptoms of being in fight, flight & freeze is self-care.
Seven compelling reasons why I invite you to consider that self-care should be a priority for you:
Prevent Burnout: Caregiving can be emotionally and physically draining. Prioritizing your well-being helps prevent burnout, so that you can provide the best care possible. For them and for you.
Enhance Your Health: When you take care of yourself, you reduce stress and lower the risk of health issues. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep contribute to your overall health, so that you can work in your executive functioning brain, which makes making decisions and moving forward easier.
Improve Emotional Resilience: By focusing on your mental health, you build emotional resilience. This means you’re better equipped to handle the challenges that come with caregiving, so that you can better preserve your sanity.
Model Healthy Behavior: When you prioritize self-care, you set an example for those you care for. It teaches them the importance of self-love and encourages them to take care of their own needs to whatever degree they are able.
Increase Productivity: Taking breaks and focusing on your own needs can boost your productivity. You’ll find that you can accomplish more when you’re well-rested and mentally refreshed.
Strengthen Relationships: When you care for yourself, you’re in a better emotional state to connect with others. This can strengthen your relationships with both the person you care for as well as your friends, family and spouse or partner.
Rediscover Joy: Engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment can reignite your passion for life. When you’re happy and fulfilled, you can share that positivity with others. What you focus on grows. Focusing on gratitude brings with it more to be joyful for.
Putting yourself first isn’t selfish; it’s a necessary step to ensure you can provide the best care possible – for them and for you. Remember, you are just as important as those you care for.
In love & light,
Coach Wendy
P.S. Are you experiencing symptoms including anger, frustration, guilt, loneliness, resentment or sadness? You may be a caregiving martyr and as a result, you may be at greater risk of dying of a stress related illness. Take my quiz to find out!
