I’ve been remembering my Grandmother Ethel lately. Actually, since the news of this virus began.

I’ve been thinking about her because I can remember how in a crisis she was always so steady. Grandma Ethel was the calmest person I knew when the shit hit the fan.

In her almost 99 years walking this earth (Grandma passed exactly one month before she turned 99) she had lived through many crises. The Depression, Scarlett fever, WWI, Spanish flu, disco. (Had to put a little humor in this). I’m not sure how she handled those crises because obviously I wasn’t around, well I was for disco. What I do know is that the crises that arose when I was around, she handled with a steadiness and confidence that calmed our family.

Grandma Ethel is the woman perched atop the lion. Fearless.

During each crisis, Grandma Ethel stayed well informed about what was happening, but didn’t let the news shake her. She just kept moving forward. Taking care of what needed to be done and she stood strong in knowing that, “this too shall pass.” And it always did.

I’ve decided to follow her lead during this crisis. This too shall pass. I’ll keep moving forward.

What I refuse to do is to be a slave to the news. I’ll keep informed, of course but I won’t let it enslave me.

So far, in the last few days, I’ve been enjoying the slower pace of life. Breathing the fresh outdoor air and of course, watching movies & television shows I haven’t seen in years. (Dawson’s Creek, anyone?)

I’ve also been texting with my mother and sending her links to funny videos. We are going to work on communicating over FaceTime soon, too, since her retirement community is on lockdown for all of the residents’ protection.

Steady. Calm. Focused forward. This too shall pass.

💗Coach Wendy

P.S.  If you are looking for community and connection during this time, I invite you to join my private FB group Life-On Purpose.  

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What if You Visualized Your Future?

For my client Carolyn, this was the most challenging step to becoming the person she always knew she could be.  

She never looked at what the future could look like.  She was stuck in a rut.  She did the same thing, day in and day out.  And never questioned it.  She never once thought that life could be different.

She wanted a different life.  Carolyn wanted friends.  She wanted to get out and do things that made her happy.  She wanted to look forward to her life.

When I asked her what the future looked like, she couldn’t say.  When I asked her what next week looked like, she couldn’t say.  Even the next day was tough for her to visualize.

Visualization is like a muscle.  When you don’t use it, it gets flabby.  

When you use it, it gets strong and you can visualize your future.  What I know is when you do this, when you visualize your future – be it a day or a week or a year from now – and you visualize yourself in a better place than you are now, you get more of that.  That’s the way it works.

It took some time for Carolyn to strengthen her visualization muscle, but once she did, things began to happen.  She found a group of friends.  She began traveling to watch her favorite baseball team – something she hadn’t done since she was a child.  Finally, she was invited to travel to Italy with a group.  She went!

Visualization is powerful.

What are you visualizing?

You can walk the same success as my client Carolyn.  Just click here to grab your copy of 5 Steps to Become the Person You Always Knew You Could Become.

Enjoy your journey.

❤️ Coach Wendy

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What is the Purpose of Having the Flu?

Have you ever woken up one day, having totally recovered from, oh let’s say, the flu with a new zest for life? The flowers are blooming, the sun is shining and you feel like dancing zest for life?

It’s not just me, is it?

Over the years, and over the course of those years suffering from bouts with the flu, a bad head cold, earache or bronchitis, I’ve often experienced the feeling of a reboot after recovering from these ailments.

What if the purpose of having the flu is actually to make us more mindful and appreciate our lives even more?

I’m getting pretty philosophical here, right?

What do you think is the purpose of having the flu?  Head on over to my private FB Group – Life-On Purpose and let us know your thoughts on this deep question.

Good health to you!  Or…………maybe a reboot to you?

❤️Coach Wendy

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What is my Purpose?

I don’t feel like I have a purpose beyond parenting.”

“I’m sad, half-way through life.

These are just a few of the struggles that my client Elsie shared with me.

When my client Ellie first reached out to me, she wanted to know who she was, to be successful, to have more than her parents and for her children to grow up being confident.

She felt uncertainty and worry.

Ellie was tired of working a job that she really doesn’t like.

She was tired of not taking action and of just existing.

Ellie wanted something to call her own, to help people and form relationships.

She wanted an identity, confidence, a happier house and a happier marriage.  Her vision was to do what she loves, spend quality time with her children and husband, creating memories.

She said that when this exists, her life will be enjoyable, there will be an abundance of happiness, she will be helping others, and she will be free.

Does this resonate with you?  Are you ready to experience the same results?

Imagine finally having something to call your own and knowing your life purpose.  Being confident and doing what you love.

What would that experience mean for you?

Learn more here

❤️Coach Wendy

P.S.  If you are looking for community and connection, I invite you to join my private FB group Life-On Purpose.  This is a community of individuals who are seeking to live their lives authentically and purposefully AND happily.  Join us!

What If You Were Thriving…Instead of Just Surviving.

Recently, I found myself walking down the same street I walked years ago, when I was employed by someone else.  Ugh.  Being in that space, on that street, brought me right back to where I was those many years ago.  And where I was – was a mess.  I hated my job.  I was nervous and anxious all of the time because I was so worried that I wasn’t doing this job, that I hated, right.  I was scared to death to make a mistake.

That’s literally all I thought about during those years.  Who’s going to yell at me now?  Because trust me, it was a weekly if not daily occurrence.  My confidence was in the toilet.  And because that’s all I was focused on, I can see now, that I got more of it.  You know what you know.  When you know better, you do better.  I think either Maya Angelou or Oprah Winfrey said something like that.  Of course, in that moment, and in that space, I did not know this.  Now that I do know better……….I’m sharing my insight with you.

Looking back now, I’m wondering, why did I care?  Why was I so anxious and scared?  It didn’t frigging matter.  It was a sucky job and I did not belong there.  So I left.  And that was scary.  What would have been even scarier, though, would have been staying.

Once I left, I began to shift out of survival mode.  I began to calm down and think about myself.  Which was a foreign concept because up to that point in my life, I only thought of others first.  Always.  Back then, beginning to think of myself and then giving myself permission to take care of myself – what is this concept?  At first I thought I was being selfish.  Looking at where I am now, I always take care of myself first.  I have found that when I don’t, I do not have the energy or the love to give to others.

Anyway, back to walking down this street, present tense……..I realized that I was completely different.  I am smiling, happy and very, very grateful for the woman I have become.  I am now choosing to be in this space.  I am choosing the people that I am spending my time with. I am thriving, not surviving.

Does this sound familiar?  Do you feel like you are in survival mode?  I have a secret to tell you – you can change that!  I know this to be true because I did it.  

What does thriving look like to you?  What needs to happen in order for you to thrive?

❤️Coach Wendy

P.S.  If you are looking for community and connection, I invite you to join my private FB group Life-On Purpose.  This is a community of individuals who are seeking to live their lives authentically and purposefully AND happily.  Join us!

What if You Weren’t Afraid of Dying?

I recently met a client at a coffee shop who lives locally.

We had a great conversation, although I knew he was holding something back.

He shared that he wasn’t afraid of anything except dying. I asked him why he was afraid of dying.

“Leaving my family and not knowing how they will turn out.” Meaning his children and grandchildren.

I asked him, “What if you weren’t afraid of dying?” Big gasp of air, leans back in his chair, hand over mouth. I can see that my question is shaking some thoughts and feelings loose. And of course, that was my intention.

He says, “That’s a big question.” Yes, it certainly is.  I pushed on – “So what if you weren’t afraid?”

He was quiet for a while and I could see that he was really trying to sort this all out. There was a glimmer in his eye when he said, “I would keep being there for my family. But I would tell them things about me they don’t know. I would share the lessons I’ve learned. I would make sure my grandson knows how to drive.”

That is what it will take for him not to be afraid of dying. It’s not a huge tweak, you see, in the way that he is already living his life.

You notice he didn’t have any grand plans like jumping out of an airplane. He just wants to be there for his family and to pass along as much of his wisdom and the lessons he’s learned as he can.  

Now that he knows this about himself and the way he wants to live his life, he can focus on doing just that. By being focused and purposeful, he is able to make decisions easier. He knows his goal. Now he is living it out.

What if you weren’t afraid of dying? How would you live your life? What would be different than the way you live it now?

❤️Coach Wendy

P.S.  If you are looking for community and connection, I invite you to join my private FB group Life-On Purpose. This is a community of individuals who are seeking to live their lives authentically and purposefully.

What If You Stopped Pretending That Everything Was Okay?

You have a routine and you do the same thing day in and day out.  Lately, though, something is different.  You have begun to look at your life, your routine and have noticed that it is no longer what you want.

You’ve begun to think – I would rather be doing something else.  I want to make an impact in this world.  I want to create.  I want to be living differently.   

You have no idea where to begin.  You have no idea what you want.  You have no idea who you are.   Change begins right here.  When you begin to see things differently.  When you begin to answer the question, “how are you,” honestly.  When you answer the question honestly to yourself first.

When you see a friend and they ask, “How are you?”, do you just smile and say, “Fine, and you?”

What if you stopped pretending that everything was okay?   What if you said what’s on your mind?

I’m ready for a change.  I’m not the same person I was.  I want to be happier.

When you do that, you connect with another person.  Possibly someone that can offer you some insight.  When you ask for help, you connect with community.  When you connect with community you begin to see things differently, to think differently and you gain traction and then you gain momentum. When you smile and say, “I’m fine,” when you really aren’t, you just stay stuck in the same place.

What if you stopped pretending that everything is fine?  What’s possible?

❤️Coach Wendy

P.S.  If you are looking for community and connection, I invite you to join my private FB group Life-On Purpose.  This is a community of individuals who are seeking to live their lives authentically and purposefully.