Month / March 2025

by Coach Wendy

Reclaiming Your Time: A Busy Woman’s Guide to Finding Balance

Are you so busy that you don’t know whether to scratch your watch or wind your butt? (Thank you, Dolly Parton, for that gem!)

As a woman juggling the demands of work, family, and caregiving responsibilities, finding time for yourself can feel like an impossible task. You’re constantly pulled in multiple directions, torn between what you want to do and what you feel you should do. It’s a familiar struggle for many women, especially those in the Sandwich Generation, caring for aging parents and raising children simultaneously.

Meet Sarah, a full-time working mom whose husband is recovering from a recent accident. With a child who has a health condition, Sarah’s days are filled with a whirlwind of doctor’s appointments, work deadlines, and household chores. In the midst of it all, she found herself constantly feeling guilty for not being able to do it all, and neglecting her own needs in the process.

“I always felt like I was letting someone down, whether it was my husband, my kids, or my boss,” Sarah shared. “I was so focused on taking care of everyone else that I completely forgot to take care of myself.”

It wasn’t until Sarah made a conscious decision to prioritize self-care that she began to find the balance she so desperately craved. “I’ve built on my commitment to self-care by devoting time to myself every day. That time has come in several different forms – exercise, reading, an extra special skin care regimen, meditation, a phone call with a friend. No matter what, some part of each day is just for me.”

This simple yet powerful shift in mindset has had a profound impact on Sarah’s well-being and her ability to show up fully for the people she loves. “I feel more grounded, more patient, and more present,” she said. “And the best part is, I don’t feel guilty about it anymore. I know that taking care of myself makes me a better caregiver, a better employee, and a better partner.“

If you can relate to Sarah’s struggle to find balance, here are some strategies that can help you reclaim your time and prioritize self-care:

Schedule it in: Treat your self-care time like any other important appointment. Block it off in your calendar and protect that time fiercely.

Start small: Even 10-15 minutes a day can make a big difference. Experiment with different activities and find what works best for you. Perhaps journaling might be for you. If it is, may I suggest my Self-Care Sanctuary Journal? It contains 30 days of journaling prompts for peace of mind. Check it out here.

Involve your support system: Communicate your needs to your family and enlist their help in creating the space for you to recharge.

Let go of perfection: Accept that you can’t do it all, and give yourself permission to let some things go. Focus on what’s truly important.

Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and appreciate the progress you make, no matter how small. Self-care is a journey, not a destination.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s essential. By prioritizing your own well-being, you’ll not only feel more balanced and fulfilled, but you’ll also be better equipped to show up for the people and responsibilities that matter most.

Want to discover how you can reclaim your time and find balance? Click here to schedule your one-on-one Guided Discovery Session with me, Coach Wendy.

In love & light,

by Coach Wendy

Find Freedom: Strategies for Work-Life Balance

As a busy professional juggling the demands of work, family, and personal responsibilities, it can feel like you’re constantly being pulled in a million different directions. Can you relate? The number one challenge I see my clients facing is the struggle to manage the expectations of others while also honoring their own needs.

On one hand, you may find yourself constantly trying to meet the needs and requests of those around you – whether it’s your boss, your spouse, your aging parents, or your children. You want to be helpful, caring, and accommodating. But at the same time, you find yourself resenting the lack of reciprocation. “If I treat others the way I want to be treated, why don’t they do the same for me?” you wonder.

This leads to a vicious cycle of resentment, burnout, and a desire to withdraw completely. You start staying up late, or overindulge in retail therapy or food – anything to numb the frustration and reclaim a sense of autonomy, even if just for a moment.

The gap between this reality and your deepest desires is stark. What you truly crave is the freedom to reclaim your time and energy for your own self-care. You want to be able to take space without shame or judgment, to put your needs first without worrying about looking “selfish.” You envision a life of greater balance, where you can tend to your physical and mental health, nurture your passions and relationships, and feel truly in the driver’s seat of your own life.

This is where a skilled coach (like meeeee!) can make all the difference. By providing an empathetic, non-judgmental sounding board, a coach can help you unpack the root causes of your struggle to set boundaries and manage expectations. Together, you can develop strategies to communicate your needs more effectively, let go of the need to control others, and create systems and routines that support your overall well-being.

With the right guidance and support, the path to reclaiming your autonomy and finding greater work-life balance becomes clearer. Small steps like establishing a calming nighttime routine, practicing daily gratitude, or carving out dedicated “me time” can snowball into profound, lasting change. You’ll start to feel more grounded, more resilient, and more in command of your own life – no longer a ball in a pinball machine, but the architect of your own destiny.

And don’t just take my word for it. See what my client Jennifer has to say about her experience of working with a coach:

If this resonates with you, I encourage you to click here and schedule your Guided Discovery Session so that together we can explore how coaching can help you bridge the gap between the challenges you’re facing and the life you truly desire. It’s time to protect your peace, honor your needs, and step into the driver’s seat of your own life.

In love & light,

by Coach Wendy

Are you going a million miles an hour? Here’s how to make space for YOU! 

In today’s fast-paced world, it often feels like we’re racing against the clock. With endless to-do lists, work commitments, social obligations, and the constant buzz of notifications, it’s easy to forget about the most important person in our lives: ourselves. If you’ve been going a million miles an hour, it might be time to hit the brakes and carve out some much-needed “me time.”

The Importance of Me Time

Taking time for yourself isn’t just a luxury; it’s a necessity. When we neglect our own needs, stress can accumulate, leading to burnout and fatigue. Making space for relaxation allows us to recharge, refocus, and reconnect with ourselves. It’s essential for our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

Creating A Relaxation Ritual

Finding time to relax doesn’t have to be complicated. Today, I’m going to share with you one simple way to guarantee that you enjoy relaxation in your day.

Ready?

Commit to doing one ritual a day – and do it badly. In other words, it does not have to be perfect. Just do it.

I’ll use myself as an example. I first learned of these two items from a client of mine who has gorgeous skin and zero wrinkles at 60!

I asked her secret and she said she used these two items daily: A face roller and a gua sha.

I’d seen face rollers but had no idea what a gua sha was. So I did some research, found a set in rose quartz and ordered. I found this set below on Amazon and you can click the link here if you are interested. (As an Amazon Associate, I may earn a small commission if you use my links. This comes at no extra cost to you and I so appreciate you.)

I had to watch a YouTube video to figure out how to use them. When I used them for the first time, I noticed that I felt calm and loved.

Then I got busy and this ritual fell by the wayside. Can you relate? Has that ever happened to you?

I noticed that I was giving myself grief for not using my face roller or gua sha. What good was that doing me? None whatsoever.

So I decided to give myself grace and just jump in and do it. If I just use the roller, great. If I use both the roller and the gua sha, that is awesome. I let go of my idea of having to do it perfectly.

If I don’t do all of the ‘rolls’ that the YouTube video I watched walks you through, that’s perfectly fine.

Embracing Relaxation Tools

What type of self-care rituals would you like to indulge in? Get curious about this.

Shifting Toward Calm

I noticed something when I used my face roller and gua sha. It gave me a sense of calm. Could it be the rose quartz? Possibly. Could it be that I allowed myself to slow down? It is very possible.

What do you think you might notice when you slow down?

You Are Deserving & Worthy

Life can be overwhelming, but taking time for yourself is essential for maintaining balance. Remember, you deserve it! So go ahead, slow down, and embrace the beauty of “me time.”

Let me know in the comments, what self-care ritual or tool will you indulge in?

In love & light,

by Coach Wendy

Feeling Overwhelmed as a Sandwich Generation Caregiver? 4 Key Ways to Manage Expectations of Others!

Today, I want to address a significant pain point for many women in the sandwich generation: managing expectations of others.

Recently, I received an email from a woman who posed this question: Is it fair to expect to be treated the way I treat others?

As someone who balances caring for kids and aging loved ones, this woman pours her time, energy, and support into those she cares about because she genuinely cares. Yet, she often feels like the world just takes and takes without giving anything back. Can you relate?

She also questioned, If I ask for something—whether it’s help, understanding, or just a little kindness—do I have a right to feel upset if that request is ignored?

It’s completely natural to feel that way. We all want our needs acknowledged.

Her next concern was, Should I stop giving to those who don’t reciprocate what I give? On one hand, she wants to be generous and kind—that’s part of her identity. On the other hand, it feels draining when her efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated. Does this sound familiar?

She expressed a desire to remain true to herself but also doesn’t want to feel taken advantage of. So, how do we find that balance?

Here are a few strategies to consider:

  1. Communicate Clearly: If you have a need, express it. Sometimes people don’t realize what we want or need until we say it. We teach others how we wish to be treated—and sometimes we need to retrain them.
  2. Set Healthy Boundaries: It’s okay to protect your energy. If someone consistently takes but never gives, it might be time to reassess that relationship.
  3. Practice Self-Compassion: It’s okay to feel upset. Acknowledge your feelings and give yourself grace.
  4. Focus on What You Can Control: You can’t change others, but you can change how you respond.

I believe in kindness and generosity, but it’s equally essential to take care of ourselves, especially as caregivers. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, know that you’re not alone.

To help you navigate these challenges, I’ve created a journal filled with prompts for peace of mind. If you’d like to explore these topics further and find some clarity, visit coach-wendy.com/journal to download your copy!

Thank you for reading! How do you manage your expectations of others? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Take care, and see you in the next post!

In love & light,