Month / February 2024

by Coach Wendy

Be Uncomfortable.

It’s uncomfortable, doing something new.

We hate that.

We’d rather keep doing things the same way, getting the same results rather than be uncomfortable.

Here’s the rub. What got you here won’t get you there. Where you are meant to be.

You are playing small.

Be uncomfortable. Build that muscle.

What’s uncomfortable now will be laughable later.

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by Coach Wendy

Tips for assisting stubborn aging parents

Parents.

They are so resistant to our help!  

We just want them to be safe, right?

Here are some solutions for when you notice that some things just aren’t right with your parent and how to deal with a parent that is resistant to help.

What if?

Here’s a technique that I learned to use on my mom when she is resistant to my help.

Last winter, she was determined to go outside to fill the bird feeders.  In the ice and snow.  Of course all I can think is ‘she’s going to fall and she’s going to break a hip………..’ and on it goes.

Now, if I’d have said to her, ‘mom, don’t go outside, you’ll fall and break a hip’ that would have guaranteed her going outside.

Instead I used the what if technique.

Here’s how it works:

Mom:  Even though the patio is icy, I’m going out to feed the birds.

You:  What if you slip and fall?

Mom:  Someone will pick me up.

You:  What if no one notices that you fell?

Mom:  I’ll press my button.

You:  What if it no longer works because it needs a new battery?

Mom:  I’ll scream for help.

You:  What if you are unconscious?

Mom:  ”

…….after a short pause………..

Mom:  I think I’ll ask one of the nurses to go outside and fill the birdfeeders.

See what I did there?  She made the decision to ask for help. I didn’t tell her what to do.

The second tip I have for you is this – instead of saying something like, “Why haven’t you washed the dishes? There are dirty dishes all over the counter!”

Noticing

What you can say instead:

“I see that the dishes aren’t done.”
“I noticed that you put your purse in the refrigerator.”

This way, your parent doesn’t feel like you are accusing them of anything, you are merely noticing.

What is it that you are worried about with your aging parent? Is it their driving when they shouldn’t, taking their medications or something else?

Let me know in the comments below.

Here’s to you using the what-if and noticing methods with your aging parents so that they stay safe and your stress level is lowered.

🩷Coach Wendy

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by Coach Wendy

10 Ways to Prevent Burnout: While you Ensure Your Loved One’s Safety

Caring for an aging parent can be a rewarding yet demanding responsibility. As you focus on ensuring the safety and well-being of your loved one, it’s essential to prioritize your own mental and emotional health to prevent burnout. Here are 10 effective strategies to help you maintain balance and prevent burnout while caring for your aging parent:

  1. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your personal time and space. Learn to say no to additional responsibilities that may overwhelm you.
  2. Self-Care Routine: Prioritize self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and relaxation techniques to recharge and rejuvenate.
  3. Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family members, support groups, or a therapist for emotional support and guidance during challenging times.
  4. Delegate Tasks: Don’t hesitate to delegate tasks or seek assistance from others in caregiving responsibilities to lighten the load and prevent burnout.
  5. Take Breaks: Schedule regular breaks and time for yourself to rest, recharge, and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
  6. Maintain Healthy Habits: Focus on maintaining a healthy diet, staying hydrated, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly to support your physical and mental well-being.
  7. Practice Mindfulness: Stay present in the moment and practice mindfulness techniques to reduce stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.
  8. Time Management: Prioritize tasks, set realistic goals, and manage your time effectively to avoid feeling overwhelmed by caregiving responsibilities.
  9. Stay Connected: Stay connected with friends, family, and social activities to prevent isolation and maintain a supportive network.
  10. Monitor Your Mental Health: Pay attention to your mental health and seek professional help if you experience symptoms of anxiety, depression, or burnout.

By implementing these strategies and prioritizing your own well-being while caring for your aging parent, you can prevent burnout, maintain balance, and provide the best possible care for your loved one. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s essential for effective caregiving and overall well-being.

🩷Coach Wendy

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by Coach Wendy

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