I support adult children who are just beginning to care for an aging parent and are struggling with guilt, frustration and feeling like they want their life back. Through my 1-on-1 coaching I walk my clients through my proven 5 step path – You Again: How to Have a Life for Yourself AND a Happy, Aging Parent so that they can truly have a life of their own with no guilt or frustration AND a happy, aging parent.
3 Ways to Not Lose Yourself in the Upcoming Holiday Madness
What’s Happened to My Aging Loved One During the Pandemic & How Can I Support Them?
Are you feeling anxious about gathering with family again after not seeing them in almost two years?
Are you starting to wonder what your aging loved ones will be like (and secretly know that they will be different) and wonder how you can support them, without losing yourself?
My friend Kathleen and I have got you covered! No worry or anxiety on our watch!
Your next steps:
Click here to sign up for Kathleen’s program, 3 Ways to Not Lose Yourself in the Upcoming Holiday Madness, coming up this Saturday, November 13th at 10 AM EST/3 PM Irish time.
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Then click here to sign up for my program, What’s happened to my aging loved one since the pandemic and how can I support them while I keep being myself? on Friday, November 19th at 12 PM CST/1 PM EST,
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It’s been, what, almost two years now since the pandemic started.
Have you already noticed some changes with your mom, uncle, grandparent? Things like repeating themselves, forgetting that they’ve asked you the same question 5 times, talking a lot louder than ever?
Are you freaking out? Wondering, “Oh no it’s that time. They are starting to fail and that means that I have to step in. But to what degree, what can I do, what will they allow me to do, what do I want to do?
It is your choice. Whew. Feel better? Not really? Okay let’s break this down. You have a choice as to how you react to what you are noticing. You can either: Say something like, “Mom, I noticed that you put your purse in the freezer,” or something along those lines. That’s all you have to say. “I noticed” and let the conversation flow from there. Your loved one might admit that they’ve been catching themselves doing some strange stuff as well. Your loved one might deny everything. Either way, you’ve opened up that communication.
Your second choice here, because remember I did say that you had a choice……is to ignore it and carry on as usual – until something happens.
There is no right or wrong answer here, by the way, and no judgment from me. Because I chose to ignore what I noticed with my mom until something happened. If I had it to do over again, I’d have noticed and had that conversation. And that is the reason why I’m supporting individuals who are up to their eyeballs in caring for an aging loved one, wanting to get back into being themselves. So if I had done things differently, would I be here doing this now? Hmmm. Who knows. You can’t go back, only forward.
You may be worried that if you notice and you have that conversation, you will be ‘on the hook’ for caring for your aging loved one. Not so and again you have the choice. What I know is that when you ask and have those conversations, then you can be better informed to make the decision for yourself what your role here will look like. You don’t have to have it all figured out at once. One step at a time.
Are you worried about the upcoming holidays when you see your aging loved one in person, knowing that there may be a change in them?
Are you one of those individuals I mentioned earlier, up to your eyeballs in caring for an aging loved one, wanting to get back into being yourself?
Either way, I’ve got you. Let’s talk so that you can mitigate the fear, frustration and maybe guilt you are feeling. Click here to visit my calendar and schedule your “Getting Back to Yourself” discovery call. This is a complimentary call just for you so that you can have a clear path moving forward in whatever you decide is best for you and for your aging loved one.
P. S. Tell me in the comments below, what are you worried about with the upcoming holidays and your aging loved ones?