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by Coach Wendy

You Are Worthy, Mama Bear: Breaking Free from the Pinball Machine Called Life

If the title caught your eye and you find yourself nodding along, you’ve probably uttered these words to yourself more times than you can count: “Why does this seem so impossible at times?” or “It’s never going to effing slow down!” Do you feel like you’re going a million miles an hour, feeling like a ball in a pinball machine, and even when you commit to self-care, it just seems to get sabotaged?

Does this sound familiar? The pressure of work, managing kids, and supporting aging parents can feel like a relentless tide. You might desperately want to stop eating when you’re full or make that smart choice to go to bed, but you stay up just for a few moments of peace, paying for it the next day. You know exercise makes you feel better, yet it’s the first thing to go when life gets hectic. Do you feel like you’re terrified of stopping because you feel like if you did, you’d never get back up? Can you see how this leads to genuine burnout, tears, and a rattled feeling?

You’re constantly pouring into others, juggling expectations, and often internalizing other people’s stress, anxiety, and frustration. It feels like the world just takes and takes, and rarely gives back. You might even find yourself saying, “I shouldn’t feel this way,” or battling the thought, “If I bring someone in to help, I have failed.”

But here’s a truth: You are worthy.  What if you could unlock a deep state of worthiness so that you can call in and experience the miracles you deserve?

I pulled this card today during my daily practice and it is in alignment with this message, wouldn’t you say?

……’Prayer has the power to move mountains, so accept what is rightfully yours’

Imagine a life that looks like liberation. Picture being able to take up space without shame or judgment and not worrying about looking selfish. Can you envision shifting toward calm and consistently protecting your peace? What if you could feel more like you’re in the driver’s seat and less like that pinball, making space for you for real relaxation, exercise, or connecting with friends and family?

Why Self-Care Seems So Impossible 🥵 AND How You Can Change That âś…

“Faith will help you to unlock a state of worthiness so that you can call in and experience the miracles you deserve”

This isn’t just a dream. This is about making what you know are the best choices with ease, having systems in place that help you have a clear mind and a manageable schedule. It’s about recognizing your importance, respecting yourself enough to stand up for yourself, and valuing yourself above the chaos.

Are you ready to move from feeling like a ball in a pinball machine to being in the driver’s seat of your own life? How will it feel to finally claim the peace, time, and space you’re worthy of? Here are a few ways we can begin:

  1. Discover Your Path: Take my free “The Overwhelmed Woman’s Inner GPS” quiz to pinpoint what’s truly draining your energy and chart your unique roadmap to peace. [Take The Quiz Here: https://coach-wendy.com/peace]

You deserve to protect your peace.

In love & light,

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by Coach Wendy

Why Self-Care Seems So Impossible 🥵 AND How You Can Change That ✅

Are you someone who is so overwhelmed with work, aging parents and children that you don’t take time for yourself?    Are you screaming YES to me?

This brings up a question that I get all of the time:

1. Why does it seem so impossible at times?

Well first, as women, we have been conditioned by the patriarchy (F that!) to prioritize the needs of others before our own.  We know this is absolute rubbish and we are fighting back – again.

Then we have the pressure we impose on ourselves.  Do you ever notice yourself saying, “I’m fine” or “I’ve got this”.   We think we can add one more thing to our already overloaded plate and then before you know it, your shrimp slips off to the floor.  And you really like shrimp. (Thank you Elaine for that analogy!)

The feeling of it being impossible shows up as a result of:

  • Overcommitment: Taking on too many responsibilities can leave little room for self-care.   (Full plate, shrimp on floor)
  • Guilt: Many of us feel guilty for wanting time for ourselves, believing it’s selfish to step away.  (F that!)
  • Lack of Support: By not saying, “I need help.  Go do _________” it leads to all of these responsibilities piling up on YOU.

So you step out of that scenario and you decide to treat yourself to some aspect of self care.  Only to have this question show up:

2. Why does it seem like when I make a new commitment to self-care, it gets sabotaged?

First, I’m going to let you in on a little secret.  When you decide to prioritize yourself and self-care, it’s common to encounter setbacks. Here are some reasons why your commitment to putting yourself first gets sabotaged:

  • Unexpected Responsibilities: Life is unpredictable, and new obligations are constantly popping up with no warning, pushing self-care to the back burner.
  • Internal Resistance: Sometimes, the desire to care for others can overshadow personal needs, leading to self-sabotage.
  • Plain old Sabotage: When you make a change, those around you see that as a threat.  As a threat, they will do whatever they can (sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally) to go back to the way things used to be so that it is comfortable for them. 

There is good news though!  While the setbacks are real, there are effective strategies to help you reclaim your time and power:

1. Set Boundaries

Establish clear boundaries with family members. Communicate your needs and the importance of self-care to those you support. This might mean designating specific times for personal activities or saying no to additional commitments that don’t serve your well-being.

2. Prioritize Self-Care

Make self-care non-negotiable. Schedule it into your calendar just like any other important commitment. This could be as simple as taking a daily walk, practicing mindfulness, or doing something that brings you joy.  Do you remember joy?

3. Create a Support Network

Surround yourself with friends, family, or support groups who understand and are in a similar situation. Sharing experiences and resources can lighten the load and provide encouragement.

4. Practice Mindfulness

Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine. Techniques such as meditation, deep breathing, or journaling can help center your thoughts and reduce stress, making it easier to focus on your needs.

➡️ To get started, Download Your FREE 8 Days of Journaling Prompts for Peace of Mind here.⬅️

5. Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate small victories in your journey toward balance. Whether it’s a successful day of self-care or a moment of relaxation, recognizing these achievements can motivate you to continue prioritizing your well-being.

Here’s the thing.  Finding balance is undeniably challenging, AND it is not impossible. Now that you understand what might get in your way  and begin implementing simple strategies, you canreclaim your time and nurture yourself.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not a luxury; it’s a necessity.

In love & light,  

P.S.  Share this on to a friend who needs support ➡️🩷 

by Coach Wendy

Overcoming Overwhelm and Stress: Your Guide to Finding Peace through Gratitude

Are you a woman in the sandwich generation? Are you feeling like a ball in a pinball machine? If this is you, keep on reading because I’ve got your guide to finding peace.

For many of us in the sandwich generation, we are balancing the demands of running a business or managing our careers while also supporting our partners through challenges, helping our children and also looking after our aging parents. Do you ever stop to notice how hard you work to be the rock for your family? Many of us don’t stop because we are so used to going fast. The weight of these responsibilities can feel overwhelming, right? On top of all of that, you may be navigating the complexities of raising children—especially if you have a child with a chronic illness. How often do you find yourself juggling these demands, trying to be present for everyone while feeling stretched thin?

The Challenge with Aging Parents

Then there’s the added layer of caring for aging parents. Often times, this relationship can be fraught with tension. Can you relate to clashing with your mother over differing views? Her tendency to put you down can make it even more challenging. And what about your father? If he has always been difficult, can you see how that frustration leaves you longing for a better connection that feels just out of reach?

Why Finding a Solution Matters

With so many demands on your time and energy, it’s so easy to neglect your own needs. Have you ever caught yourself thinking that pushing through will eventually lead to balance? Beware. This mindset is often a trap. Ignoring your well-being only amplifies stress and feelings of overwhelm.

Finding a solution to this relentless cycle is not just about alleviating stress; it’s about reclaiming your life. Have you ever heard the phrase that you cannot pour from an empty cup? Prioritizing your mental and emotional health is essential—not just for yourself, but for your families as well.

You are worthy

Have you considered taking a step back to reflect on your own needs? Can you see how you are worthy of care and attention? By investing in your well-being, you will be better equipped to support your loved ones and enjoy peace as well as healthier relationships. Ease and flow anyone?

To help you get started, I invite you to download my free 8 Days of Journaling Prompts for Peace of Mind. These prompts are designed to guide you toward reflection and clarity. You can find them at coach-wendy.com/journal.

While I won’t delve into the specifics of how to find these solutions—after all, that’s what I’m here to help you with—I want to emphasize that taking action is crucial. Can you imagine how prioritizing yourself will create a ripple effect that positively impacts those around you?

A fulfilled and balanced life is the greatest gift you give to yourself as well as offering to your loved ones. What if we were to embrace the chaos together so that you can find a path that honors both your needs and those of your family?

In love & light,

by Coach Wendy

Reclaiming Your Time: A Busy Woman’s Guide to Finding Balance

Are you so busy that you don’t know whether to scratch your watch or wind your butt? (Thank you, Dolly Parton, for that gem!)

As a woman juggling the demands of work, family, and caregiving responsibilities, finding time for yourself can feel like an impossible task. You’re constantly pulled in multiple directions, torn between what you want to do and what you feel you should do. It’s a familiar struggle for many women, especially those in the Sandwich Generation, caring for aging parents and raising children simultaneously.

Meet Sarah, a full-time working mom whose husband is recovering from a recent accident. With a child who has a health condition, Sarah’s days are filled with a whirlwind of doctor’s appointments, work deadlines, and household chores. In the midst of it all, she found herself constantly feeling guilty for not being able to do it all, and neglecting her own needs in the process.

“I always felt like I was letting someone down, whether it was my husband, my kids, or my boss,” Sarah shared. “I was so focused on taking care of everyone else that I completely forgot to take care of myself.”

It wasn’t until Sarah made a conscious decision to prioritize self-care that she began to find the balance she so desperately craved. “I’ve built on my commitment to self-care by devoting time to myself every day. That time has come in several different forms – exercise, reading, an extra special skin care regimen, meditation, a phone call with a friend. No matter what, some part of each day is just for me.”

This simple yet powerful shift in mindset has had a profound impact on Sarah’s well-being and her ability to show up fully for the people she loves. “I feel more grounded, more patient, and more present,” she said. “And the best part is, I don’t feel guilty about it anymore. I know that taking care of myself makes me a better caregiver, a better employee, and a better partner.“

If you can relate to Sarah’s struggle to find balance, here are some strategies that can help you reclaim your time and prioritize self-care:

Schedule it in: Treat your self-care time like any other important appointment. Block it off in your calendar and protect that time fiercely.

Start small: Even 10-15 minutes a day can make a big difference. Experiment with different activities and find what works best for you. Perhaps journaling might be for you. If it is, may I suggest my Self-Care Sanctuary Journal? It contains 30 days of journaling prompts for peace of mind. Check it out here.

Involve your support system: Communicate your needs to your family and enlist their help in creating the space for you to recharge.

Let go of perfection: Accept that you can’t do it all, and give yourself permission to let some things go. Focus on what’s truly important.

Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and appreciate the progress you make, no matter how small. Self-care is a journey, not a destination.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s essential. By prioritizing your own well-being, you’ll not only feel more balanced and fulfilled, but you’ll also be better equipped to show up for the people and responsibilities that matter most.

Want to discover how you can reclaim your time and find balance? Click here to schedule your one-on-one Guided Discovery Session with me, Coach Wendy.

In love & light,

by Coach Wendy

Overwhelmed? Essential Self-Care Strategies for Women

Are you a woman in the sandwich generation feeling overwhelmed by the demands of caregiving and personal responsibilities? You’re not alone. Many women like you are navigating the chaos of daily life, often feeling like a pinball in a machine—bouncing from one obligation to another without a moment to breathe.

What if I told you that there was a way for you to reclaim your power and prioritize your self-care – and that it was easy and totally doable?

Tips to Reclaim Your Power and Prioritize Self-Care

1. Seek Support

Having a caring individual by your side can make a world of difference. Reach out for support to gain a broader perspective on your challenges. Collaborate with someone to map out a simple strategy that helps you manage your responsibilities while still carving out time for yourself.

2. Simplify with a Strategic Plan

Create systems that streamline your life. Develop a clear, actionable plan to transform chaos into manageable tasks. This will help you feel more in control and focused on what truly matters.

3. Embrace Guilt-Free Rest

Remember, rest is essential, not a luxury. Practice taking breaks without guilt. By recognizing your worth, you can shift your mindset and make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine.

4. Cultivate Peace and Confidence

Equip yourself with tools and strategies to turn anxiety into peace. Embrace your power to take the driver’s seat in your life, steering towards balance and fulfillment.

Take one tip at a time and master it. Then, move onto the next.

You deserve to feel in control and confident in your journey as a caregiver. By prioritizing self-care and seeking the support you need, you can transform your life from chaos to clarity. Are you ready to take the first step towards empowerment?

Discover the FREE Self-Care Sanctuary Journal, designed to support you on your journey to self-worth. With 30 days of journaling prompts, you can embrace your worthiness, release guilt, let go of worry, and find balance. Live each day with gratitude and purpose, knowing that you are enough and deserving of a thriving life.

Click here to download your Self-Care Sanctuary Journal


In love & light,